Hey everyone! Thanks for stopping by…I just finished reading this post on Yahoo News or whatever it’s called these days. It was pretty interesting. You can go read the whole thing, or just listen to what I have to say about it…Doesn’t matter much to me.
Read the whole thing here: Why I Cheated on My Husband
Basically the article is a compilation of 5 women’s reasons for cheating. It’s both interesting and depressing, so read at your own risk.
I’ll go over it here, so you don’t have to read it if you don’t want to.
Wife #1 says – “My Husband was Abusive”
Admittedly this is a toughie. While I can understand her desire to get out of the relationship, her approach was absolutely not the correct one. In the article she says that she knew marrying her husband was a mistake ‘from the day I married my husband’. So a year into her marriage to her turns-out-to-be abusive/controlling husband she has an office affair and then gets a divorce. Ends up happily ever after, of course.
Okay…My main question would be why did you marry him in the first place? People don’t change just like that over night. I’m glad that she got out of a bad relationship, but her approach was wrong. A simple divorce would have sufficed.
Wife #2 says – “We began to resent each other”
This one is just pathetic. Basically a woman enthusiastically marries a man and both of them are thrilled and excited to have kids, the moment she gets married she realizes how much she loves her job and decides she doesn’t want kids at all.
Time passes, resentment festers because there’s no communication, and the husband eventually tries to pull the ol’ dark room switch on protected sex (he tried to slip off the condom). That’s the last straw for their sex life, and thus they enter into a sexual/emotional drought and she ends up turning to online dating sites.
Her husband eventually caught her cheating and they sought therapy. The lesson she learned?
“My husband was only 50% to blame.”
Wow, really?! Earth shattering! My mind is blown!
Real people here, folks.
The lesson learned here is, again, communication is the superior alternative to infidelity. Could’ve avoided everything with a little communication.
Wife #3 says – “I was bored and unhappy”
This one is probably the worst in my opinion. Basically, this woman has a perfect life living with a well-to-do man and two kids in the suburbs of Wisconsin. Of course, when things are too perfect you get bored, which she did, and soon enough she happened to be on a business trip or something and met an Australian man named ‘Bob’ while she was away.
Her and Bob exchanged numbers and kept in touch. She eventually flew to Australia to get him ‘out of her system’ (What?!) and ended up falling in love (surprise surprise) and leaving everything behind, children included, to live in Australia and start over.
She ended up living happily ever after with this new guy, Bob, and they now have 5 kids and 10 grand kids.
Of course, if she’d been willing to put actual effort into her previous marriage maybe 2 kids would’ve grown up with a better family.
Wife #4 says – “My husband was a workaholic”
This is a tale of a woman who was a devoted wife and mother but her husband never had enough time for her because of his work.
Eventually she ended up meeting with a guy and spending the night with him, which immediately spurred her to divorce her husband and move on with her life.
This one is…I don’t know. Clearly she put a lot into her marriage and her husband was, I’m guessing, unreceptive for the most part. She probably felt exasperated and ended up getting out the only way she knew how, the only way she was strong enough to, at the time.
Obviously, communication would have been better. Obviously. But at least she didn’t have an ongoing affair…She immediately ended her marriage after her affair. From what I understand anyways. Not that that’s still an excuse, but I’m just saying. The main difference between this wife and the other is that she seems much more like she actually put in effort.
Wife #5 says – “He cheated first”
Basically this woman found out that her husband cheated on her after less than a year into her marriage. She lost all value in her self, which is to be expected. She lost confidance, lost self esteem, lost emotional stability. In the end her and her husband separated, but not before she cheated on him. They eventually did seek counseling and come back together, so that’s good I guess.
I don’t know what to say about this one. My only thing would be that if you were going to cheat on him, why not just leave him. Seems to me. But I guess I don’t know…People do crazy thing when they’re cheated on.
If you’re a husband trying to understand why your wife cheated, I suggest you check out this post: My Wife Cheated
So the lesson learned from all of these stories?
Marriage takes 3 things:
If you don’t got those then just don’t bother.
Sigh. Now I gotta shake off this weird mood I’m in.
Hope you have a good day!